Edging – The How and Why: Vagina Edition
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Edging – The How and Why: Vagina Edition
- A way to explore your own arousal
- Practice alone before including partners
- Choose the right time
- Take note of your body’s reactions
- Explore what feels good
The language in this article is in no way intended to convey any gender. Any possible indication of gender is unintentional, at SVAKOM we understand that sex and gender are not mutually exclusive and that genitals do not necessarily indicate gender.
What is Edging?
Edging is a sexual act where a person will be brought close to orgasm (the edge), only to pull back before reaching climax. Edging can be done through masturbation or during sex, as well as alone or with a partner or partners.
Edging is as an activity is used to build stamina and endurance in regard to sexual activity and has even been considered an optional method of treating premature ejaculation in some cases. However, edging isn’t solely bound to those with a penis.
Edging for people with a vagina takes a similar form of masturbation and pulling back, the methods tend to be slightly different. The general premise remains the same, do what gets you going and pull back on the brink. Where people with a penis tend to utilize methods such as squeezing; gripping the head of the penis to prevent the orgasm, and ballooning; adding Kegel exercises into your session, often resulting in the penis alternating between flaccid and erect.
Why Try Edging
Edging has multiple benefits, as mentioned previously, for people with a penis it’s a possible treatment for premature ejaculation. Aside from this, the main reason to give edging a try is simple – it makes orgasms feel explosive. The longer build-up and denial aspect to it makes the inevitable moment of release more intense, resulting in a much more powerful finish.
Edging can also be a great way for you to learn more about your body and your own arousal – through increase the time you spend interacting with your own body, you are able to identify more erogenous zones, what keeps you ticking, and perhaps more importantly, what you don’t like.
Knowing what you don’t like is just as important as knowing what you do like. Knowing more about our own bodies and how it responds to stimulus helps to improve communication in the bedroom. If you know you don’t like something, and your partner or partners attempts to initiate it, you will already be prepared to guide them away from that either with a firm no or a gentle nudging in the right direction.
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When is Best?
This comes down to personal preference, however, as a rule of thumb make sure to start practicing edging when you have plenty of alone time with no risk of interruption. If you are on a time limit, it’s best to avoid trying as this can lead to frustration if you can’t finish or achieve what you’re hoping for, and no one enjoys cutting a session short without finishing. It is also best to start on your own before involving anyone else – this is a process you want to experience and enjoy, without bringing someone else into the mix. Find a time where you are alone and able to get truly intimate with your body.
After getting more acquainted what with what makes you tick and how edging works for you, you can start including it in your activities with your partner/partners. Still make sure you have plenty of time on your hands and enjoy yourself. Edging should be about having fun and experiencing pleasure. If you’re not in the mood for edging, the back and forth that comes with it, or just want a quick and easy finish – then don’t do it. Always prioritize what feels best in the moment, focus on you and your partners mutual pleasure.
